Saturday, 24 May 2008

Well indeed.

I've seen the 'extreme' pornography law in the UK be misinterpreted a couple of times; a few people have thought that by supporting the law they are also protecting children.

What I'm not grasping is how people are failing to understand that children are protected with other laws. I have quoted the 'extreme' porn law and I've looked at some of the debates (at length!), but, for anyone passing through, I'll quote it again and refer you to the great big long post about what the law entails.

Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill Part 6: Criminal Law, "Pornography etc."

Part 6


CRIMINAL LAW

Pornography etc.


64 Possession of extreme pornographic images


(1) It is an offence for a person to be in possession of an extreme pornographic image.


(2) An “extreme pornographic image” is an image which is both—

(a) pornographic, and

(b) an extreme image.

(3) An image is “pornographic” if it appears to have been produced solely or principally for the purpose of sexual arousal.

(4) Where an image forms part of a series of images, the question whether the image appears to have been so produced is to be determined by reference to—

(a) the image itself, and

(b) (if the series of images is such as to be capable of providing a context for the image) the context in which it occurs in the series of images.

(5) So, for example, where—

(a) an image forms an integral part of a narrative constituted by a series of images, and

(b) it appears that the series of images as a whole was not produced solely or principally for the purpose of sexual arousal, the image may, by virtue of being part of that narrative, be found not to be pornographic, even though it might have been found to be pornographic if taken by itself.

(6) An “extreme image” is an image of any of the following—

(a) an act which threatens or appears to threaten a person’s life,

(b) an act which results in or appears to result (or be likely to result) in serious injury to a person’s anus, breasts or genitals,

(c) an act which involves or appears to involve sexual interference with a human corpse,

(d) a person performing or appearing to perform an act of intercourse or oral sex with an animal, where (in each case) any such act, person or animal depicted in the image is or appears to be real.

(7) In this section “image” means—

(a) a moving or still image (produced by any means); or

(b) data (stored by any means) which is capable of conversion into an image within paragraph (a).

(8) In this section references to a part of the body include references to a part surgically constructed (in particular through gender reassignment surgery).

(9) Proceedings for an offence under this section may not be instituted—

(a) in England and Wales, except by or with the consent of the Director of Public Prosecutions; or

(b) in Northern Ireland, except by or with the consent of the Director of Public Prosecutions for Northern Ireland.

Really, do people honestly think that because there is no mention of children in this law that that means children aren't protected? See the Protection of Children Act 1978, and also Section 160 of the Criminal Justice Act 1988.

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So that's the practical bit done. Now the theoretical, which is what Heart refers to. She argues that by arguing in favour of pornography on the basis of freedom of speech, one leaves the gate open for child pornography apologists.

Well, firstly that is a pretty disgusting thing to say. But somehow not surprising. I think there's a definite line in debate and accusing the other side of being in favour of abusing children, Heart has rather done a hop, skip and a jump over it. Why? Well, it's pretty simple. First, a quote from Heart:

In fact, where pornography is protected as someone’s freedom of speech, child pornographers will use it, make it, traffic in it, and thrive. The pro-porn side, whether they admit it or not, has so far seemed to view the proliferation of child pornography and pornographers as some sort of unfortunate collateral damage in their (un)holy war to preserve this particular type of ”free speech” (read: the unfettered right and entitlement to whack off to as many depictions of violated bodies as possible).
This based on the logic that women, like children, are unable to consent. Women, adults, are theoretically able to consent, their mind as a fully functioning adult human being has the capacity to say yes or no. It is true that some women, many women even, have not consented, however, in this case, the law assumes that women can and do, thus if the actress has not consented then the allegations would be rape, sexual assault and false imprisonment (one would assume). The implication that women would be better protected under child law is alarming; women are adults and ought to be treated as such. Affording women the same legal status as children is an incredible step backwards.

Regulating adult pornography, therefore, is a different matter to regulating child pornography. The assertion that arguing for pornography as freedom of speech is opening a floodgate in which child pornography could be excused is ridiculous.

It's true that when writing about pornography, one ought to distinguish between adult and child. However, I would think it is fair to assume that when writers such as myself or Renegade Evolution argue against laws regulating pornography, we are not discussing child pornography. Quite obviously (to most) that is a different matter.

More birdies

To be honest, it's been a fairly difficult week offline (and some tricky moments online for that matter), so I'm glad it's the weekend. Been down to the reserve just now for first time in what feels like ages, and because, damn it brightens the blog up, I'll shove up some pictures of the stuff I saw. Then I'll resume normal bile blogging - took down a post on sisterhood to edit so that can be looked at, or there's one on equality and liberation in the drafts, plus another one taken down for editing but I've forgotten what that one was about. Finally, I've just remembered I'm supposed to be blog sitting for Polyamorously Perverse, so I'll have to come up with something suitably depraved for that. And speaking of PP, I miss my dear man very much indeed and have done all week; I've been miserable as it was, and then the selfish bugger took C off so it's really rubbish.

But the reserve... well, here's some stuff I remember seeing:Canada Goose: I'm sure it was a Canada Goose I saw. It was all the way over the other side of the river, but I'm sure that's what it was. We don't have a Canada Goose listed in the reserve so that's canny cool.
Grey Heron: Again on other side of the river standing on a rock looking kind of surly. Kicked the water and wandered around the back of some rocks, then returned and stood still again.
Collared Dove: It wasn't amused in the slightest to see me and flew away.
Carrion Crow: That was kicking about by itself in a tree.
House Sparrow: Loads of them flying and hopping around the hedges.

Also heard a pheasant and a blackbird and others I can't tell the difference between.


And that's the end of my Edith Holden impression...

Friday, 23 May 2008

Why I like local news (sometimes)

(This is dedicated to Dr. Brazen Hussy and Kim!)


A Tawny owl in Cumbria has become the oldest mother of her species.

I've got one hell of a soft spot for owls. Owls and hedge birds. Definitely love them more than people.

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Friday Poetry Blogging

Hypocrisy, Samuel Butler

Hypocrisy will serve as well
To propogate a church as zeal;
As persecution and promotion
Do equally advance devotion:
So round white stones will serve, they say,
As well as eggs to make hens lay.

Online Opinion

My bit for the Australian Online Opinion is up - 'The UK 'extreme' p*rn law'.

Thursday, 22 May 2008

Those Kinky Goth Girls

Ren's declared it Kink Week and Amber's asking, "What's kinky, indeed?". Here, I respond to them both.

Kinky is deviancy: sexual deviancy (in my eyes). One can't be any more precise than that; the 'strength' will vary according to the perceiver's norms, values and life experience.

Goths and Kinks seem to go hand in hand together though, don't they? 'Specially the ladies - very feminine, very sexual, and the boundaries between 'fetish' and 'goth' are blurred. Amy C. Wilkins wrote a very interesting article on Goth girls (though she's not feeling the whole Goth girls movement) - "So Full of Myself as a Chick": Goth Women, Sexual Independence, and Gender Egalitarianism (more in another post). She quotes Anna Quindlen - "babe feminism". So that's a new one for us all - we've got Babe Feminism now, along with Male Fantasy Feminism, Stripper Feminism, 'Anti'-Feminism, Not Feminism (that one's splattered everywhere), Pro-Pornies... it all comes from Fun Feminism, which, as we all know (cos fuck, it's all over the radfemosphere) is one end of the dichotomy spawned by Dworkin - I'm a radical feminist, not the fun kind. It's short hand for calling Sex Positive Feminists 'the patriarchy's wet dream' and it certainly shows that kink and feminism? They don't sit easily together.

Why? It's complex. Sometimes though, it feels like "we" are being accused of not looking beyond what facilitates sexual agency and empowerment, whereas sometimes I'm not sure "they" look beyond their own perceptions of what 'sexy' involves. Why is dressing sexy bad? Because, they might say, it panders to the male's perception of what is sexy. But why does that necessarily involve submissiveness? And why not look deeper into that - is it male? How do males really interpret sexy? Why is sexuality interpreted in terms of gender, does it need to be? I think it might be grand to look beyond that and poke at it a wee bit...

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Wednesday, 21 May 2008

My new favourite toy to taunt folk with

This is dedicated to everyone's favourite cyber thug Ren.

Language of Feminists - a two-parter

Words: 1790

Female Score: 2470
Male Score: 3403

The Gender Genie thinks the author of this passage is: male!

Anyone want a go?

Good Lord....

So, I said the other day - rapists cause rape. I said sarcastically, "...here's a radical thing - if you get raped, it's the man's fault."

I didn't really think I was being radical. But, fuck me - Belle quoted me (and I was aware of this and happy for her to do so) and, well, judging by some of the comments, I was actually being quite controversial. Anon, for example,
So no, rapists don't cause rape - our screwed up views on male and female sexuality does.
Shut up until you get it, because frankly, you do women no favours.
Either me or belle or both are getting told to shut up there... Nice.

But, ok, let's go with this. Liberty is not a stupid and / or self-evident truth. If I say we're all free then the Hard Determinist school of thought are going to get pissed off, and why not? The philosophy of determinism is incredibly complex and I'm not going to undermine that. I'm going to over-simplify for the sake of this post and stick to extremes - We have got free will and We have not got free will. Now, if we have free will, then a rapist chooses to rape and there is no external force and there is no problem with the assertion: rapists cause rape, it is the man's fault. But, if we have not got free will...

We have not got free will: Determinism

Hard Determinists assert that freedom is an illusion. Kind of like Fatalism - you've got no influence on future or events. Why think like this? Well, you can conclude this logically, biologically, theologically (Pre-determinism), &etc. It's not an argument for stupid people, in short.

But, with regard to rape. No, with regard to ethics. What does this mean for ethics? If I did something wrong, why did I? My biological make-up? I'm "ill"? Or, "This is the will of God", that sort of thing? I did something wrong but it was not my will. My choice? An epiphenomena.

The action itself remains wrong regardless of free will. But the lack of agency is literally demoralising. And the self is lost, there is no me, I am a mass of external forces. Moral laxity is encouraged, therefore. Why bother? Rape, or any immoral action, must go unpunished. The action has terrible consequences but, like a natural disaster, the actor cannot be held accountable. This is not to say he shouldn't be imprisoned - if he has the misfortune to be made this way he does need to be kept away from wider society. It is not his punishment, just simple common sense.

But yes, accept hard determinism and relinquish the notion of free agency. Fuck, that's one way to dodge responsibility, just ask Leopold and Loeb.

Jesus, my head hurts and it's nearly 3am. Let's call in Hume. Ok, so if, say, the morally wrong action, the rape happened randomly and it was not determined, well, how do you punish that? That doesn't make sense either. To punish someone it has got to be determined, if you think about it (and Hume did. A lot) - it just sort of happened is, well, nothing really. The action has therefore come from intention, the character. The intention to rape is within the rapist. How'd it get there? God? Biology? Society? Don't know. But, ultimately, it came from within the rapist. However it got there, it was within his character.

Do, therefore, rapists cause rape? Yes. Whoever, however and whatever determined his destiny, the fact is the action is attributable to him and his self, whatever made that, it still exists. Was it an accident? No. Did it happen randomly? No. Social forces impacted upon his brain and the inevitable consequence was rape - well, if you like, but either way he did it. It was his action and his character, however and whoever made it up. It was society's fault? Well, society embodied itself within him and so the action was committed. So society's just going to disembody itself now and go on it's merry way? Whatever, something, according to determinism, has embodied itself into someone and thus created a self within that someone. That self exists. That self is punishable and to be held accountable, irrespective of that which has made it up. It is made and it acts, whether by destiny or agency, but it does exist as a seperate being. Thus: it does wrong, it intended to do wrong, it is punished.

Bloody hell, that was a head fuck. Tempted to turn the comments off on this one because I don't really want any twatty comments. 'Doing' philosophy ain't fucking easy and I'm hardly going to get it down in one blog post. There's bound to be a leap somewhere that has left something in the air that ought to have been pinned down. But my friends, it is a start.

PS. Mattthebastard has also quoted my radical idea, so, yeah, let's see what this brings...

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Tuesday, 20 May 2008

Language of Feminists - a two-parter

Renegade Evolution was, a few months ago, a shocking little sausage. Well, I wasn't shocked because I've been reading since March and I'm used to it, and her regulars are used to it so they won't have been shocked. But the unschooled in Renisms didn't like this:
Once upon a time, I had a wish, a dream, a surely wank worthy fantasy of some anti-porn sex work types having to face down, in a forum, and debate those from the other side. And I wanted to be there.
"wank worthy" - bad lass. At the time I didn't react cos there was other Sam Berg-related stuff going on that took up more time. But there was some talk about language. And it's odd, cos I do like writing about language from time to time, but no, I let it go.

But, recently, it came to mind again. I'm not going to get all Derrida on your asses, but I found a post in the radfem quarter that really shocked me. I'll get to it in a sec. Back to Ren.

Maggie Hays left a comment at Witchy's which I fucking fisss.....discussed at quite some length.
“laughing like a super villain”? “wank worthy fantasy”? I agree that these comments were totally inappropriate. This makes me think: this kind of language is awfully similar to the sort of language a porn-using abuvive ex-boyfriend of mine was often using when talking to me.
When I fisss...discussed the entire post, I glossed over it because it seemed to me there were more important things to address at the time (not that philosophy and such of language isn't important, because of course it is).

Laurelin weighed in:
It’s interesting to note how many of the male ’sex pozzes’ use this sort of language to ‘argue’ against radical feminist arguments against pornstitution. They speak of ‘fisking’ us, accuse us of ‘wanking’ over details etc (Witchy has certainly had this aggressive language used against her recently by cowardly fuckwits).- all of it is major projection, of course. They cannot see the world in any other way, they use sexualised language to try and win their pathetic little game. It speaks volumes about them, it really does, and it only proves our point about pornification. The more the shout to drown us out, the more they tell us just who they are... I think my point stands: the pornsick men use sexualised language to ‘argue’ against radical feminist points of view. As they’re mostly concerned with their own erections, it stands to reason that they use this kind of speech. It doesn’t stop feminists wiping the floor with them though! [my emphasis]
Plus a few others.... Stormy, "Gawd, look at the language that RenEv uses, so totally pornified",

I take the point that language, in a sense, is gendered (obvious example of "slut" being a man's word, which many, especially in the sexosphere, are trying to or are reclaiming). And then there are understandings of language coloured by one's own perceptions of gender itself. For example, Ren saying "wank-worthy fantasy" (or even when I say stuff like "So and so are wanking themselves off over [whatever]", which I do say sometimes), one could easily interpret that as quite masculine language, and it is highly sexualised.

One could also argue that it is sexually aggressive, which we associate with men, with violent men, yes. It's no stretch of the imagination to see what Laurelin and Maggie meant. There is, I'm afraid, also the argument that it could jar because it is against the grain to hear a lady talk like that. It's masculine because it's sexually aggressive and women are not sexually aggressive.

I could at this point go into the idea of how men fuck and women are fucked, men have, women have been had, that sort of thing. But that is changing - if I say I fucked a bloke that isn't against the grain in the slightest.

But yes, I do agree, it is associated with sexually aggressive men (and that is not a euph for rapist, but of course it could be). I myself do not look down upon anyone who uses this form of language, there are similar Geordie slang words I use to similar effect (I could say now "I'm wanking myself off about language"). Rather than seeing it as aggressive though, one could see it as passionate (if you read Ren's post you'd have to be very stupid indeed not to pick up on her excitement). There are different ways of interpreting it, and I would suggest that leaving it at "it is masculine and abusive" as a very shallow analysis. It's too reliant on assumptions; men are this, that is like this, so this is like men. It's not good enough.

Anyway, I could finish here but I'm not gonna. I'm going to move on to hypocrisy now.

A quote from Witchy:
And then they start posting about “laughing like a super villain” and their “wank worthy fantasy” of debating “some anti-porn sex work types”. To me, the language used is the same language that rapists use (I’m a rape crisis counsellor, I’ve heard it a million times)
(By the way - "they" didn't start posting anything of the sort, The Evil Ren did.)

I think, given how I've seen some of the radfems discuss sex workers, that that is laughable in a "this really isn't funny this is hypocritical" kind of way. All of the above quotes are. It's struck me more recently that the way some radfems talk about sex workers is absolutely fucking disgusting. I mean, it's really bad.

What I'm about to quite was laughably under the subheading "feminism". From Redemption Blues,
Personally, the gape-mouthed, simulated ecstasy phallic worship of pornography makes me queasy with its population of women who are nothing more than a collection of orifices to be poked, prodded, skewered or whatever other verb you might find apposite to describe penetration. Completely devoid of autonomy and humanity, they represent an absolute and abject negation of everything that feminism has fought for, conniving at, indeed exulting in their own debasement (self-abasement), revelling in the nihilistic extinction of their selves that bears an uncanny resemblance to that of the believer aching to merge with God (as Sontag hints at).
Fucking hell.... So then, um, why is that ok? Why is it ok to adopt the language of men that you all hate so fucking much to describe a woman.

Hell, I'll humour you and pretend that you're using this language to get your point across. I mean, this is a bit much. This actually offends me. It's disgusting. If the women in pornography are vulnerable and there against their will, as some are, don't talk about them like that. Would you talk about a child being abused like that to make your point?

But no, I doubt you are thinking of women who are forced into porn. You're thinking about the women who choose to be there, women like Ren for example, who tirelessly fights your misconceptions. And Christ, you fucking hate her. You hate all of them because they've thrown your gift of Feminism back in your faces and they're fucking on screen and they love their job. I mean, seriously - that paragraph is too much. "Replicating" the language of "men" to this extent is inappropriate, it's offensive, and to be honest, it's coming across as cruel.

If some dick heads see porn actresses like this it should not be replicated or in anyway encouraged, it is abhorent. The rads are well aware of this, some of them have expressed this above with ref. to Ren. Women should not be discussed in these terms under any circumstances.

And the fact is, I just don't think it is to make a point because I've seen too many times the absolute disgust of radfems when it comes to sex workers. Like, finishing up, the most offensive of all, from Arantxa again at Witchy's.
But still, (and this is something that I have found very hard to come to terms with) she is a woman, like me. And her being fucked-up is because someone fucked her up. And I wouldn’t expect any woman who has been or who currently is sexually abused, degraded, battered - no matter what spin she puts on it - to behave in a nice way towards anyone, especially not towards women who are basically making that abuse feel real and more diffult to deny.
Christ, there's no fucking with this one, is there? No pretense of replicating 'male' language to shock. Difficult to come to terms with the fact that she's a woman "like me". She's obviously in your eyes so radically unlike you it fucking disgusts you. And "fucked up... no matter what spin she puts on it..." What the fuck? That is one low fucking blow, that one. Really fucking low.

And the funny thing is - what Ren was attacked for has been perpetuated by the radfems outside the Sam Berg discussion with no self-awareness from what I can see.

So, you see - language is important and we're all aware of that fact, radfems and us pro-porners (great way to dismiss a movement, that). You say women in porn have been abused and men don't give a fuck and isn't that disgusting (oh, but you don't seem to give a fuck because the woman is not in agreement with you, so fuck her). Ren uses "masculine" language, it's half-analysed then dumped because it's another tool to attack her with and it'll do, then you yourselves use it to express your disgust with sex workers.

Shit, it's all just a massive circle. I say some rotten things on this blog, I've baited and I've been a twat. But that - "population of women who are nothing more than a collection of orifices to be poked, prodded, skewered or whatever other verb you might find apposite to describe penetration..." It's too much. That's a woman you're talking about, that is women, and they are still the same gender as you like it or not, and you're objectifying them the way you claim men objectify them. There is no need to replicate the language of men to express your disgust at the industry because what you are expressing is your disgust for the women.

Sugasm #132

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“Despite my outward appearance, I still felt sexy as hell knowing what was underneath those misleading garments.”

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Monday, 19 May 2008

Birdies

I love birdies. And I've taken Kim's fucking hilarious post as a carte blanche to show you some of the pretty English birdies that grace my garden and England in general. Regardez......

Blue tits are so naughty. They are very, very naughty. Readers of old may remember the three blue tits, Bad Blue Tit, Dirty Blue Tit and Other Blue Tit who kept waking me up at 4 in the morning over last summer when they picked the paint off my window. They're pretty but they're very fucking bad. They're my favourite bird.

Siskin. A yellow bird. Awesome. One wonders how it hides itself.

Jackdaw. Blue eyes! I didn't know that until Friday when someone pointed it out to me. These are another example of Bad Birds. We put food out for the hedge birds and the Jackdaws all come together and take in one sitting what could feed the hedge birds for days. I've got quite a soft spot for the Hedgies so that doesn't please me.

Rook. So! Shiny! And! Glossy! And mad beaks as well. Only ever seen one once. Huge! Worthy of a great many exclamation marks, the Rook.

That Pheasant's looking at me saying, "You've got thesis stuff to do, you know. This isn't even intelligent blogging."

The Robin. Orange breast but we call it red for some reason. Rarely photographed without snow or a spade or other garden paraphernalia.

This Greenfinch is also a bit confused as to why I'm googling birds when I've got a thesis to do.

Little Owls are little and cross and they hiss. You've to do what they say.

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So there you have it. Birdies.

Sunday, 18 May 2008

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The ol' book meme

I love this meme. Tagged by Madam Butterfly of Blissful Desires.

The Rules:
1. Pick up the nearest book.
2. Open to page 123.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the next three sentences.
5. Tag a few people.
Nearest book - The Hidden World of Virginia Woolf, Mitchell Leaska.
For in his death, Thorby came into her full possession. She and Vanessa had fought over him in the nursery. Now that was over.
Tagging..... anyone who wants it!

Friday, 16 May 2008

Friday Poetry Blogging

Song of Solomon, Chapter 4

1 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from mount Gilead.
2 Thy teeth are like a flock of sheep that are even shorn, which came up from the washing; whereof every one bear twins, and none is barren among them.
3 Thy lips are like a thread of scarlet, and thy speech is comely: thy temples are like a piece of a pomegranate within thy locks.
4
Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men.
5
Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies.
6 Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, I will get me to the mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense.
7 Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.
8 Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse, with me from Lebanon: look from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards.
9
Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck.
10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!
11 Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.
12 A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.
13
Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard,
14
Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices:
15
A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.
16
Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.

Thursday, 15 May 2008

Well, isn't this nice?

The GUM clinic - an N.H.S. run clinic for all aspects of sexual health: information and advice about having a healthy sex life, free condoms, STI tests and the relevant treatment, and, from what I remember, a whole rain forest worth of leaflets.

All very sensible and responsible, going to a GUM clinic. But, cos society is what it is, no one wants to go, teenagers freak out that mums and dads are going to be informed, and even for the adults, well, it's always a little embarrassing. No one looks at each other in the waiting room and everyone talks very, very quietly. But, y'know, nice, friendly, non-judgemental staff and all that... Um, yeah....

Here's a special little case - Sharon Roberts had to rearrange an appointment. The receptionist rang to offer her a new one, all well and good, then, oops, forgot to hang up whilst she slagged the poor lass off:

"It’s a message for Sharon. Could you please ring health advisor about your appointment that you missed this morning on 01642 854548. Thank you.

"That girl didn’t think she had a problem. One unit - that’s half a lager, half a beer, or one of them small glasses of wine or a shot of spirit. She drinks 100 a week. A lady should be 14 max.

"Hello, sorry... but she weren’t no lady."

"I know."

LAUGHTER...

"Was she really bad?"

"She was drunk as well."

"She can’t have said to you that she drinks 100 units, she must have put it in."

"No, well I said ‘oh you drink 100 units’, but she won’t have said that. It will be the doctor who will have guessed that from what she told him. I don’t know how he’s got to that."

MUFFLED...

"Here, alcohol intake - the patient doesn’t think she has a problem and is not really interested in help. She wasn’t bothered.

"How old is she?"

"18."

"The boyfriend said that as well. He’s Kurdish Iraqi the boyfriend."

MUFFLED...

"Was he canny enough?"

"Yeah."

"Oh yeah, but come on, who else is going to have her, bless her. She smells, she had black teeth. She’s a typical either druggie or alkie because she’s dead skinny."

MUFFLED...

CONVERSATION THEN TURNS TO SOMEONE ELSE...

Quoted from GazetteLive.co.uk

Now, going to the GUM clinic - you're either very responsible and getting yourself checked out, you've messed up with your contraception and you need help or, worst case scenario, you've been raped. With regard to the latter two, girls and women are going to feel vulnerable, especially if they have been attacked. But even the former are probably going to feel uncomfortable. Whatever the case though, everyone is being very sensible and responsible.

No one deserves that. And to go on about a 19 year old like that is a disgrace, especially when none of what they accused her of was true. Sharon Roberts has been let down big time. Hopefully her example will stop this ever happening again.

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